Father’s Day 2015
The command says, “Honor your father and mother.This is the first command that has a promise with it— “Then everything will be well with you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”Ephesians 6:2-3
The picture below are my three earthly Dads: my own father holding our son Josh, Pastor Bill Raws and Pastor Van.
I didn’t make a mistake with today’s heading. I want to talk about Father’s Day 2015 and give you some things to ponder in preparation for next year.
My guess is that for some of you, Father’s Day is a tough day. You may have not had the greatest relationship with your earthly Dad, and that has even impacted your relationship with your heavenly Father.
My challenge for you is this: if you already have a good relationship with your earthly Dad, build on that relationship. If you have had a difficult relationship with your Dad, would you pray about what YOU can do to turn that relationship around? Paul challenged the Romans “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” (Romans 12:18)
I sat with too many friends over the past ten years who have no relationship with their earthly Dads. Some have had big issues that have caused a rift in the relationship. But to be really honest with you, most of what I heard has been petty stuff that has festered into bitterness and hard heart.
Many of my friends at the death of their father have wept uncontrollably because of the regret of not making things right. That’s a terrible and unnecessary burden to carry. Bitterness and hard-heartedness never stays with just you – it is always transferrable to others – and most often it is your kids.
I am thankful that I have no regrets with my relationship with my Dad. He has been in heaven for 25+ years. Our relationship up to the end was amazing.
Having said that, there are some things I would have done differently:
1. Take lots of pictures with you and your Dad and with your own kids. I don’t think I have one picture of just me and my Dad. That stinks! I wish I had at least one or two. Snap away – you can’t go back and redo those memories.
2. Communicate weekly with your Dad. I called my Mom and Dad daily. Some told me that was crazy and excessive. I have no regrets about keeping the lines of communication open.
3. Express gratitude to your Dad for his role in your life. There has to be something in the past that you can thank Him for. My Dad’s generation was not good at building us up. They didn’t want us to get big heads. It had to be how they were raised. You can turn this around by demonstrating gratitude.
4. Tell your Dad you love him. My Dad’s generation really had trouble with this too. They didn’t use the “love” word often. You have no idea how much it will mean to your Dad, particularly in the golden years to know he is loved by his kids.
I am certain that if you practice these four things, your Father’s Day in 2015 will be one you will cherish for years to come. Will you give it a try?
What are some of the ways you have built your relationship with your Dad?
Bill Welte is President/CEO of America’s Keswick
Think About This:It would be much more valuable for people to change their actions less, and to change more rather the disposition which makes them act.Francois Fenelon
This Week’s Verse to Memorize: The Lord is my rock, my fortress, my Savior. My God is my rock. I can run to him for safety. He is my shield and my saving strength, my defender and my place of safety. The Lord saves me from those who want to harm me. 2 Samuel 22:2-3