When is it appropriate to confront another brother about their issues? Who is the person that should do the confronting? And when do we simply allow the Holy Spirit to do the confrontation and changing?
There are various reasons why I believe that Christians, including me, do not use Biblical methods in confrontation. In some cases, it is a personality trait. In that, people pleasers, like me, are continuously concerned about how others perceive them. As a result, to save face, instead of addressing certain issues or problems, people pleasers tend to convince themselves that they are keeping the peace, but in fact, it is a false sense of peace they are keeping in tact.
Another issue I have encountered is the lack of Biblical training in this area. Christians will read a few scriptures on judging, and base their decision on the desire, ‘I don’t want to be judgmental.’ On the other hand, if the teachings on grace are not clear, people will tend cower away from confrontation, and as I hear plenty of times, “I will just let the Holy Spirit convict them.” Alternatively, it could be that people are not trained, or disciplined in ways to believe that confrontation is a good thing.
Another evil that hinders Biblical confrontation is the abuse of the scriptures. Paul says, “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1) The emphasis here is the one who lives by the Spirit. We can be right about certain issues that needs addressing, but most common disconnect is that not all Christian are walking in the Spirit when they decide to address the situation. So, what does that mean? You have wrong motives, wrong timing, wrong tact, or merely not being diligent to think through the whole situation (discernment).
As a mentor, I personally am guilty in some of these areas. As Christian, with the leading of God our motivation should yearn for the goal of bringing a brother and sister back to God. God bless you and have a Blessed Day! Juan Mendez is a graduate of the Colony of Mercy and serves full-time at America’s Keswick
Think About This: The custom of sinning takes away the sense of it, the course of the world takes away the shame of it. —John Owen
This Week’s Verse to Memorize: But do not let this one fact escape your notice, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slow about His promises, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:8-9