Thanks for hanging in there for the past several weeks. Here is the last installment in this awesome article by Donna Jones (Crosswalk.com). I hope it is has been helpful.
- Your child has an “all-about-me” mentality.
All children are selfish some of the time, but a child with an attitude issue is selfish most of the time. Young children, of course, must learn to share (don’t despair if your two year old hasn’t mastered the concept yet!) But if your elementary school age child still struggles with selfishness, you need to take action.
At its core, selfishness reveals an “all-about-me” mentality, which bleeds into all areas of life. How do you know if your child has an “all-about-me” attitude? Look out for these behaviors: Your child has difficulty sharing her friends and is easily hurt if her best buddy spends time with someone else. Your child gets herself a snack without offering one to her friend. Your child has difficulty celebrating a friend or sibling’s success. Your child must get her own way to be happy. Your child talks more than she listens. Your child needs to be the center of attention. Raising happy, healthy, well-adjusted children means helping them move past the “it’s all about me” mentality.
- Your child plays the victim card.
“I can’t do it.” “She’s mean to me.” “But it’s too haaaaaard!” If you’re a parent, you’ve heard these complaints, usually said with a whine that grates on your last nerve. While it’s sometimes easier to step in when your child’s insists he can’t, it’s vital to allow your child to learn to overcome obstacles on his own. When a child overcomes something that once overwhelmed him, he becomes empowered. He moves from victim to victor.
When your child hits a roadblock they’re sure is too hard, do this: First, coach your child up. Teach him how. Show him how. Talk to him about how. Don’t do the hard stuff for your child; show your child how to do the hard stuff for himself. Sometimes, though, it’s necessary for parents to do what a child cannot. How do you know when it’s time to step in rather than step back? Step in when you’re certain your child cannot handle a difficulty on his own.
- Your child feels entitled.
Notice I wrote your child ‘feels’ entitled. That’s because though kids may feel entitled, the fact is, they aren’t. Sadly, too many children in our culture are led to believe they are.
How do you know if your child feels entitled? If your child consistently displays an over-the-top emotional outburst when they don’t get their way, if your child rarely expresses gratitude, or if your child believes rules are for everyone else, but more like guidelines for him, you’ve got an entitled kid on your hands.
Thanks for joining me on this journey. I deeply appreciate you.
Rejoice! Pray! Give thanks!
Bill Welte D.D.
President/CEO of America’s Keswick
Written by Dr. Bill Welte, President/CEO of America’s Keswick: Bill has been married to his child sweetheart for 40+ years, and has three married kids, one that is engaged, and 11 amazing grand kids. He loves music and is an avid reader.
Think About This: “If you have been freed from needing success and acclaim to feel good about yourself, you know grace has visited you.” — Paul David Tripp
This Week’s Verse to Memorize:
“For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, And His ears are open to their prayers; But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” 1 Peter 3:12