As I grow in my love of the Lord, I also grow in my love for my wife. Has she changed some? Perhaps. But that’s not why I love her more. My love deepens as Christ chips away more of me and replaces it with more of him.
Eph. 5:25 love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up (died) for her
We can stop there—but we won’t.
Col. 3:19 love your wives and do not be harsh with them
Lets go a bit further.
Rom. 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Love our wives like Christ loved the church—Christ died for the church—we must be willing to die for our wives. OK, I can hear you now—“I would take a bullet for my wife!” Bravo. The chances of that actually happening are slim to none so I’m not too impressed. And, someone else would be pulling the trigger so you would be far less in control. No, the real “death” here is a daily dying to self—putting aside our wants and desires, our dreams—sometimes, our right to be right in order to love our wives the way they need to be loved. Jesus put aside everything—power, position, majesty, dignity—everything—and literally died for the object of His affection. Are we ready to do this on a day to day basis?
Oh, and here’s the real kicker, Romans 5:8—while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.Ouch! God has called us to love our wives like Christ loved the church, to be willing to die for her AND to be willing to do it JUST THE WAY SHE IS! This was the lesson I needed to learn, unconditional love. Not a love based on “if she does this then I’ll do that.” I’m called to die to self and to love, lift up my wife, even when the house isn’t clean or the dishes aren’t done or she still smokes or had a drink with the girls…..I’m still called to love her just like Christ loves me—unconditionally.
Yeah, taking a bullet is so much easier isn’t it.
And lets not forget, Col. 3:19—we’re not even supposed to be harsh with our wives, in word or deed—even while they are sinners—just like we are.
Father, help us to fall more deeply in love with Jesus and with that, more deeply in love with our wives. Help us to die to self and in that, Christ may be seen and glorified in our lives and marriages. Amen – Steve Schmidt is a graduate of the Colony of Mercy and serves full-time at America’s Keswick. He is a weekly Freedom Fighter blogger
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This Week’s Verse to Memorize: It is good to give thanks to the Lord,
And to sing praises to Your name, O Most High;To declare Your lovingkindness in the morning, And Your faithfulness every night. Psalm 92:1-2